May 31 2008
Love Stinks
I have been writing for many years. I write for several websites and find it a great hobby and hopeful it can become my full time job. I wrote a novel entitled Her Desires that can be found on www.epublishing.com and it is something I am so proud that I did. It was about a relationship I had with a man that I met on one of my vacations. I didn’t realize it would turn into anything serious. When it did I found myself preparing to move to another country and leaving my family. Then I come to find out the man is already married. I wrote Her Desire to help me deal with the emotional torment I was going through. I didn’t understand and still don’t understand why someone would do that to anyone. I thank God I found out the real story before it was too late.
Falling in love isn’t easy and when you find that person that you truly want to spend the rest of your life with you become overwhelmed with joy. It is a rare feeling that is truly hard to explain. It is an emotion that no one can bring down unless of course the person is really nothing you thought they were. It just so happens you fell in love with an idea or a character they portrayed. The immediate horrible pain you feel is excrutiating and almost unbearable. Just when you think you are going to die tomorrow comes and a new day begins. It sucks plain and simple, but you move on and deal with it. You have to and that’s all that is to it.
Recently my brother was going to get married to a woman living in another state which was all the way across the country. He met her through an online dating service and figured out after he asked her to marry him and she said yes that it is really not for him. The dating service that is. It ended up he couldn’t move away from his family and she had no understanding to it. Since he wasn’t moving fast enough for her she called off the wedding and was back on the site within three days. Hmmmm. I told him it was best he never moved since it was suspicious that she wanted too much too fast. She was a 45 year old woman with no plans to have any kids. Why do you want this 45 year old man to hurry up and marry you? Why do you not care to meet his family until the wedding day? Why is everything her way and no compromise? I didn’t like it and I’m glad he is rid of her. But it is six months later and he is still hurting from the pain. I told him there are plenty of fish in the sea with no exaggeration. It sucks but it is time to move on. Don’t waste anymore time on this person that wasn’t trustworthy to begin with. He will see the truth in time. But love can really hurt sometimes.
